I am totally devastated by this news…..If you’re a DMB follower, then you have heard already. LeRoi Moore, Sax player and founding memeber of the Dave Matthews Band has died due to complications from an ATV accident back in June. It was thought that he would recover from his injuries, but passed away from complications.

What we know:

LeRoi died this afternoon at an LA Hospital.

DMB has decided to go on with their LA show tonight. Some fans say feel that’s what LeRoi would have wanted.

There isn’t anymore information on what happened other than “there were complications.” I know he had broken ribs and a punctured lung, but since the accident, no other information has been given. I’ll post more when I know.

RIP LeRoi Moore. DMB will not be the same without you.

From the Official Dave Matthews Website: www.davematthewsband.com

As we sat this afternoon contemplating the loss of our brother, we wondered how we could possibly do a show today. Dave put it into perspective stating, “There’s no place I’d rather be than here with you guys right now.” We cherish special memories of our lost friend. Tonight, Dave told a story about LeRoi at a bar in Virginia where the cash register was near the stage and LeRoi leaned on the register because “standing had become a chore”. Roi proceeded to play the most beautiful version of Somewhere Over The Rainbow. Dave said, “that was the day I fell in love with him. And I’m still in love with him.” It’s safe to say we all were in love with him. “It’s always easier to leave, than to be left.” -DM

Go to www.julietandjuliette.com to see a video from last nights show in LA and also a video tribute to LeRoi.

Juliet

Sources:
www.davematthewsband.com
www.antsmarching.org
www.cnn.com

What do you think of or see when you look at this photo?

If you said a women wearing a thong with her legs spread...Congratulations! You're a lesbian!

If you said a lamp....sorry, you lose. Just kidding.

Got this picture from a good friend of mine and thought it would be funny to post. Thanks Danielle!

Juliet

On Saturday, August 16th, Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi were married in a backyard ceremony with a quaint 25 guests. I think it’s just wonderful!

As with a lot of lesbians I’m sure, Ellen played an emense role in the acceptance of myself. Not only seeing her show, “Ellen” and the coming out episode, but also with her fearless ‘this is me, take it or leave it’ attitude. Since then I’ve been a huge fan. And Portia…well, not only is she beautiful, but she’s like my femme lesbian idol!

I look forward to the day when something like this isn't big news. I hope that in our lifetime we get a chance to marry the ones we love and have it be recognized by every state on a Federal level. Allowing it to be about love and committment and not about judgement and so called religious opinion from the right-wings of our government.

So, here are a few pics I found on www.365gay.com, and a cute video from YouTube.com created by a fan…

CONGRATS ELLEN AND PORTIA!! (I can’t wait til it’s my turn…sigh)

This just shows how very real the transgender movement is right now.

America’s Next Top Model will be featuring a model by the name of Isis. She is beautiful, she’s talented and has a giving spirit as a non-profit employee. Isis is a transgender woman.

GLADD President, Neil Giuliano said to MSNBC News that, “the inclusion of Isis on America’s Next Top Model offers an unprecidented opportunity for a community that is underrepresented on television. We applaud Tyra Banks and the CW network for making this historic visibility of transgender people possible.” That says it all to me.

You can see Isis on America’s Next Top Model premiering on September 3rd on the CW.

Juliet

Now this is a theory I just don’t get.

Lesbian Bed Death is a term created by sex researcher, Pepper Schwartz. It’s a term that describes, what she calls, the inevitable diminishment of sexual passion in a long-term lesbian relationship. Schwartz study indicated that over time, lesbians have less sex than all other couples, no matter the sexual orientation. Most noted was the fact that there was a steep decline in sexual activity among lesbians after the first year!

WHAT???

I’m sorry, but I do not agree with that. I mean, I don’t know about the rest of you, but I’m having sex till I’m old and grey! And even if there is some truth to this study, why does it affect lesbians more? I know PLENTY of straight couples that have been married for years and don’t have sex anymore. I hear my male friends talk about it all the time. Even if they’re not married.

So, the fact that Schwartz is saying it happens more in lesbians is bizarre to me. I might also add that her theory states that women lose their sexual urges when they feel they are in a secure relationship. Maybe there is some truth to that…but I have to think that if you continue to have sex with your partner, doesn’t that ensure the security of the relationship? Not that you should make sure to have sex with your partner everyday for the rest of your life. I’m aware that there are stresses that take you “out of the mood” and you can be so busy you might not feel like it all the time. But to lessen the amount of sex you have only after a year? To me, that would be cause for concern.

So, in my opinion…. KEEP HAVING SEX! It’s a beautiful, fun and thrilling experience when you are with someone you love and want to be with for the rest of your life. And if you’re not having sex anymore, only after a year, maybe you need to find what’s keeping you and work on it. If it doesn’t improve, then maybe that person isn’t right for you sexually. It could be a lot of circumstances that tie into it.

Maybe I’m a little bias…I want to have sex with my girlfriend all the time!

Juliet

My biological father, Ben passed away from AIDS in 2001. With not meeting him for the first time until I was 24, I never got much of a chance to get to know him before he died. Actually, I only know a handful of things about him with the exception of any negative comments about him from other family members.

They have reasons to feel these things about him. He didn’t lead the greatest life. He constantly borrowed money from people, he bounced checks, he got evicted from places on numerous occasions and he lied, a lot. The worst part of it was that he left my mother with two young children…took the car and other things in the middle of winter and left her. My sister was 5 and I wasn’t even a year old. That did not sit well with me…still doesn’t.

However, it wasn’t until after I came out,which was after he passed, that I started to have some sort of twisted understanding as to where he was coming from. I don’t condone they way he left us, but being gay in 1976, I’m sure wasn’t easy. He was trapped between a heterosexual world and the world he needed to be in. And neither was accepting of him. Gay with a wife and two kids just didn’t fly and well neither did being gay. So he ran away and he made mistakes.

The night before he passed away he was unable to speak, however he could listen and understand. So, with seeing my father lay before me only weighing about 60lbs at 6′1″, I decided to tell him how I felt…about everything. It was the best thing I could have done for my own healing and for his. The last words I spoke to him, I said, “No matter what you did in your life or what anyone says, you will always be my father and no one can change that.”

Since his death, I’ve wanted nothing more than to find out as much about him as possible. With being disowned from his family, I have no way of finding out personal things about him. Simple things. Stories or memories and of course medical history. I have been able to obtain his military records from when he was in Vietnam, but it doesn’t say much. I have a video of him and his brother, Roger, my uncle. However Roger died of lung cancer only two years after Ben. So, my link is gone. At this point, I’m trying to find out whatever I can, but I’m not sure where to start looking. I have all of his original documents, birth/death certificate, social security card, etc.

Some people ask me why I want to find out information on someone who left us and treated my mother badly. Here’s the thing…It has nothing to do with the fact that he was gay or that I’m gay. Yes, I can relate to the feelings he may have felt being married and hiding his life, but that’s not it. He was a human being. He created me out of love and from what he told me, he loved me and thought of me everyday. There is no one else on this planet that cares about him or his things but me. This is hard for my family to understand. They think I honor him too much. For me, I don’t care what mistakes he made, there’s no reason why someone among the living shouldn’t care about him or his life in death.

So, I will be continuing the journey of ‘looking for him’. Finding out whatever information on him I can. AIDS took him away before I had a chance to develop a relationship with him and before I was even able to come out to him. What I find of him is all I have now.

If anyone has ever been through something similar, please share your stories with me. I’d love to get advice on the best ways to search for information. With every piece of information I find, I find him. I’ll keep you posted from time to time on how the search is going.

Juliet

Let's get right to it, shall we?

How many orgasims is too many? Wow, I almost said that without laughing. Of course you can never have too many orgasms! There are so many benefits to having orgasms, besides the fact that they feel good and its fun getting there!

Here are some of the benefits:

1. Orgasms relieve stress.- Okay, that’s a given. What could be more relaxing! But it also lowers your blood pressure.

2. More sex!- Having sex one to two times per week can boost your immune system and is linked to higher levels of anti-bodies called Immunoglobulin A. So, maybe what our mothers meant to say was “An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away”…Screw the apple! Well, not literally…that could be another blog. Hmm…sex and fruit. Could be interesting.

3. Burn Calories - Just thirty minutes of sex can burn up to 85 calories! It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions! Think about how many calories that would be from your last sex-filled weekend!

4. Cardiovascular Health - It can lower your risk of a heart attack. And for you baby boomers out there, don’t believe the hype that it can cause a stroke. Although, that wouldn’t be a bad way to go in my opinion. But in all seriousness, if you think you could be at high risk for either, you wanna consult with your doctor.

5. Self-Esteem - Okay, look at Shane from the L Word. She has a very healthly self image. Some researches say that it not only increases your self-esteem, but can improve it as well.

6. Reduces Pain- I can speak from personal experience. Nothing takes away my migraines faster than having an orgasm! The hormone oxytocin and endorphins increase which lowers your pain levels. So, ladies, if you’re woman says she’s got a headache, then you know what to do!

7. Strengthens Your Pelvic Wall- There is a little thing called “The Kegal Exercise”. This is where you tighten the muscles of the pelvic wall. Basically, move your muscles as if you’re trying to hold off going to the bathroom. Some researchers have said that doing this during sex can help increase the pleasure of your orgasm! Sounds like its worth trying!

8. Better Sleep - Can’t sleep? Have sex! Nothing will put yourself into a deeper sleep than sex! So, for example, five hours of sex could equal 3,500 calories burned, no headache and a great nights sleep!

Now that you know, go out and get healthy!

If you’re reading this and you have trouble having orgasms well, that just sucks! But here are a few suggestions to help you out. Again, if you feels there’s more going on than just not having an orgasm, please make sure to talk to your doctor.

Make sure you’re good and turned on before you even think about having an orgasm. Try thinking of a fantasy, read some erotica or watch an erotic video to get you in the mood. Experiment with different positions and techniques. Oral sex may work great for one woman, but others find penetration a sure way to orgasm.

Masturbate. Can you bring yourself to orgasm? If so, teach those techniques to your partner. Or better yet, masturbate with your partner as a witness.

Try a vibrator. Many women find that the best way for them to consistently reach orgasm is through the intense stimulation of a vibrator. Don’t be afraid to bring toys into the bedroom if they increase your sexual pleasure.

There are some websites like www.pureromance.com that sell creams that will help your clitoris to swell and become more sensitive. Making it easier to have an orgasm.

I want to make it clear that I do not have a medical background, yet. (Nursing school soon). So, please make sure you talk to your doctor about any problems you may be having in this area. If you don’t know how to talk to your doctor or want someone who is GLBTQ friendly, you can look them up at www.glma.org. The Gay and Lesbian Medical Association.

If I can help one orgasm "come" to the surface, my job here is done!

Until next time,

Juliet

I'm so excited to tell you that there now is a lesbian voice on Rainbow Cincinnati again! I'm hopeful that I can follow in the footsteps of Scout223!

Just to give you a little background on me...I currently write for my blog called Juliet and Juliette (www.julietandjuliette.com). I tend to write about whatever is on my mind at the time. That's how blogs work right? We'll I'm happy to say that now you can read my witty banter regarding topics like, Relationships, Love, Sex, U-Haul'ism, Politics, EROTICA, Religion, Health and everything in between; from a lesbian or woman's perspective. Well, lesbians are women so I guess that's the same!

There are a lot of times that I'll write about things that go on in my own life. I found out very quickly that I'm not alone in a lot of areas. For example, I had a gay father who wasn't around. Also, he died from AIDS in 2001. My first girlfriend was transgender, I almost married a man and came out later in life, age 26.

Once I started writing on my blog, and like I will with Rainbow Cincinnati, I found comfort knowing that there are others out there like me. How did I find out? Readers respond and comment on their own lives. That is a wonderful feeling. I mean, isn't that what we lesbians do? Share our feelings?

So, I look forward to sharing my life and thoughts with you no matter how goofy, emotional, controversial or embarressing it may be at times.

I look forward to blogging for you again soon!

Juliet